I am a quote queen. You can catch me on Pinterest daily pinning inspirational or motivational quotes. I have a notebook of written favorites & a Pinterest board full of even more. I do this because I use the wise words of others to guide me when things get hard. I figure they are far wiser than I & hearing words that speak to my situation makes me feel less alone.
So, like every blog post, I began my Pinterest search for the perfect quotes to share with you as I break down this self love thing. Because let's be honest, every single woman, at some point or still currently, suffers from a lack of self love. So this one is important to me. We formed this community to build women up. To inspire them to live their best lives. To create themselves. Self love is a huge aspect to that.
Of course I found some amazing, uplifting & empowering words of wisdom to share with you. But do you know what I also found?
I found that when I searched specifically for "I love me" quotes, the results were (mostly) relationship quotes. I'm all for a good love quote but I guess it made me realize, we idealize romantic relationships so much that we are willing to lose ourselves, hurt ourselves, put ourselves last & pour ourselves into terrible relationships because being loved by someone else is more important than loving ourselves.
When you think about it, we are constantly being told NOT to love ourselves. So many companies are thriving from this concept. Makeup industries, weight loss products, plastic surgery, ads depicting perfectly photo shopped goddesses. All of them monetize on the fact that you have a flaw & want to fix it. So you buy that product, try that diet, get that lip injection. All the while beating yourself up. Talking yourself down. Not feeling good enough.
I'm definitely not saying if you use these items, you don't love yourself. I wear makeup, have a boob job, love a good filter & live at the gym. & not all companies are out to destroy your self worth or positive image of yourself.
But the fact remains: most women struggle with this, & most companies do capitalize on it.
So, this month we are focusing on all things self love in our #ArtYourself group.
You can follow the link & join us. We will have articles, videos, podcasts, tasks, shared stories & a community of support for you in your self love journey.
What is self love?
“Self-compassion involves treating yourself with the same kindness, concern, and support you’d show to a good friend. When faced with difficult life struggles, or confronting personal mistakes, failures, and inadequacies, self-compassion responds with kindness rather than harsh self-judgment, recognizing that imperfection is part of the shared human experience.” (Neff & Dahm, 2015)
Think about how you would talk to your best friend when she calls you & tells you she feels like a failure. You pick her up. You tell her how amazing she is. You show her compassion. You listen. You love her.
This is how you should view & treat yourself. Like your own best friend. Accept who you are, love your flaws & forgive yourself for your mistakes.
Why is self love so important?
Lack of self love feels isolating, defeating, limiting, & unhappy.
When you love yourself unconditionally, you take care of yourself. You surround yourself who genuinely care for you (rather than hanging onto toxic relationships). You don't compare yourself to others or pick yourself apart. You express yourself & go after what you want. You're grateful & understand you aren't owed anything which leads to greater life satisfaction & you feel more in control of your life. You live authentically. You adapt to adversity more easily & become more resilient. You are motivated to make healthier choices & experience better mental health & less stress. Self love is an important factor in living the good life.
How can you show yourself some love?
You know how you buy random surprises for people you love? Or tell them how awesome they are when they feel unsure? How you sometimes rearrange your schedule to help someone else out?
Self love means you do the same for yourself. It's the love you keep giving to everyone else but never yourself.
You do this through:
Valuing your needs
Speaking your truth
Spending time with friends & family
Doing what you love
Getting enough sleep
Sticking to your values
Chasing your dreams
Working on your mindset
Letting go of toxic relationships
Accept your flaws
So, in a world that tells you you're not good enough, loving yourself is super power & like a smile, it's contagious. People fall in love with your authenticity & want to feel the same liberation & freedom you do. So the best thing you can do for yourself & others is to love yourself. Period.
If you struggle with loving yourself, make sure to join our Facebook challenge group: #ArtYourself as we break down The Art of Self Love. Every member gets a promo code every month at the end of each challenge & an entry to the monthly giveaways. Join now!